But most marriages will end in divorce. Most of their problems are about the children, money, or
in-laws. When couples commit to a long
relationship, there are specific personality traits they should have in common.
1. Similiar physical texture (thick skinned/thin skinned)
2. Similiar emotional stability
3. Similiar degree of tolerance
4. Similiar intelligence/understanding of situations
5. Similar Interests
Without these five traits, the couple live on difference planes,
different worlds. They are inclined to drift apart. Couples grow by adjusting to their differences, but some times,
the amount of the difference may be too much.
Love provides the reason for being willing to adjust to the
other person's difference from yours.
A frequent question is; "How do I know it's real
love?" The answer may be that when
you are enjoying something special - ex:
a movie, a sunset, flower, song, and you long to have your partner to share it with.
The degree of longing will determine how much in love you are.
Growth in a relationship should come from; doing things together, allowing things to happen, accepting
them as is, and changing what you can. It involves sharing and caring.
Couples usually don't mind working at their relationship as long as they have a closeness to each
other. They don't want divorce, they
want understanding. Divorce is usually a
rebellion at not being able to get through to each other. The couple are still
in love, that's why it hurts so much to part.
There is a story of a couple who had been engaged for seven years. The young lady didn't have the
courage to commit. They had their personalities profiled and learned to adjust
to each other's personalities. They understood
each other as individuals and their relationship flourished.
by:
Kathy Thompson
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